I couldn’t find Christ-centered friendships before college.
Thankfully, God worked through the University of Mobile to replenish my life with friends who lead me closer to Him.
Overcoming my Shyness
As a child, I was shy – extremely shy. My mother taught me how to read from a very young age and inspired my love of learning. Growing up, my days were spent sitting outside in the sun with my nose in whatever book I picked up from the library that week. By the time I reached my teenage years, I realized that I had spent so much time flipping the pages of novels that I failed to truly connect with anyone or build friendships.
In my quest to break out of my shell, I sought friends in my workplace and school groups. Trying to form genuine ties with girls my age proved to be nearly impossible, and here’s why: they led me away from Jesus. Sure, everyone in the South claims to be a Christian, but are they encouraging their peers to follow the Word of God or the ways of the world? Are they uplifting you or tearing you down? Are you really “no fun,” or do they have the wrong definition of fun?
These questions plagued me for years.
A Ram Rush Mishap
When I began my freshman year at the University of Mobile, I was placed in a Ram Rush group. These groups are composed of around 15 new students and an upperclassman who shows the new students around. Each group assembles for different activities, meals and events. I, of course, was too shy to make friends with the other students in my group.
But, one day there was a mix up. I went to the cafeteria with my Ram Rush group and got distracted. By the time I turned around, my group had disappeared! I spotted another group nearby and found the quietest freshman to ask, “Is this my group?”
And that’s how it started – my first Christ-centered, genuine, healthy friendship. Aubree and I spent the rest of Ram Rush week together, preferring each other’s company to the large groups and events. We bonded over similar struggles, our introverted interests, and our love for Jesus. We quickly became closer than sisters.
I prayed for a friend like Aubree, and Jesus heard me.
Lasting Friendships
Aubree and I still express our thankfulness to the University of Mobile for giving us the opportunity to meet and for fostering a friendship in a fun, Christ-filled environment.
For years, Aubree and I regularly got lunch together at the Sub Zone and talked about everything under the sun. We would also walk to the library, intending to do homework, but usually cracking jokes instead. I still think some of the best naps I had were in her dorm room while we blasted Disney Channel on the TV. Most importantly, we attended chapel sessions and worshipped together.
Now, after five years, Aubree and I are closer than ever. We’ve been through all the ups and downs of life alongside each other. We pray for each other. We support each other. Excitingly, we are planning her wedding together, and I’m blessed to be her maid of honor.
This beautiful and encouraging friendship would never have happened if it weren’t for God’s plans for us at the University of Mobile.
Transforming my Circle
After my initial connection with Aubree, I wondered if I could broaden my horizons. Since it’s difficult as a commuter to attend every single event hosted at the University of Mobile, I was largely unknown to other students during that first semester. I thought this would be the case for the rest of my time in college.
Fortunately, I underestimated the University of Mobile’s warm and close-knit environment. As I began taking more courses, God expanded my small circle of friends. Despite not having attended every event or meeting, I found myself forming friendships quickly and naturally. I no longer had to force myself to be something I wasn’t because the girls I have had the privilege of connecting with accept me as Christ has made me.
With small class sizes, chapel services, dances and student-led clubs, the University of Mobile continues to form and foster some of the most encouraging, supportive and loving friendships I have experienced.
Overall, I discovered the truth behind the statement, “Know and Be Known,” while attending the University of Mobile.
Kylee Stewart is a senior at the University of Mobile majoring in English with a dedication to classic literature, critical analysis and academic writing. While attending the University of Mobile, she has sharpened her skills in research and communication, equipping her for a career in teaching English at the collegiate level. Kylee is from Daphne, Alabama, and enjoys baking, crocheting and volunteering in her free time.